February 4, 2015 - Black Fatherhood

  • 02/04/2015

Panelists Common, Charles Blow, Joe Jones and Mike Yard join Larry for an in-depth discussion of African-American fatherhood.

>> TONIGHTLY IT'S BLACK HISTORYMONTH.

TO CELEBRATE I GOT YOU A SHOWWITH FIVE BLACK MEN ON THE

PANEL. IT SHOULD HAVE BEEN SIX

BUT SUGE KNIGHT RAN OVER ONE OFTHEM

WE ARE TALKING ABOUT BLACKFATHERS.

NO, AFRICAN PRIESTS. NOBODYCARES ABOUT YOU,

GET YOUR OWN DAMN TALK SHOW

SO CLIMB DOWN OFF THEPOLE, AMERICA.

WE'RE GOING TO TALK THROUGH OURDADDY ISSUES.

LET'S DO THIS.

THANK YOU, WELCOME TO THE"NIGHTLY SHOW."

THANK YOU, VERY MUCH.

I APPRECIATE IT.

NO, I APPRECIATE IT.

I KNOW WHO YOU'RE REALLYCLAPPING FOR.

[LAUGHING]BECAUSE TONIGHT WE HAVE A

SPECIAL SHOW.

WE'RE TALKING ABOUT BLACKFATHERHOOD.

WE THOUGHT THERE WAS SO MUCH TOTALK ABOUT WITH THIS ISSUE.

WE'RE JUST GETTING STRAIGHT INTOTHE CONVERSATION, OKAY LET'S

INTRODUCE OUR PANEL.

OSCAR AND GRAMMY NOMINATED HIPHOP ARTIST AND ACTOR, COMMON.

[CHEERS AND APPLAUSE]>> I TOLD YOU THAT WAS FOR HIM.

I TOLD YOU.

[CHEERS AND APPLAUSE]>> OKAY.

NEW YORK TIMES COLUMNIST ANDAUTHOR CHARLES BLOW.

THANK YOU.

[ APPLAUSE ]>> FOUNDER AND PRESIDENT OF

CENTER FOR URBAN FAMILIES JOEJONES.

AND OUR NIGHTLY SHOWCONTRIBUTOR, MIKE YARD.

BEFORE WE START I HAVE TO SAYTHERE WAS A NUMBER THAT WE HEARD

THAT JUST REALLY SHOCKED ME.

I WANT TO GET EVERYONE'SREACTION TO THAT.

LET'S PLAY IT FIRST.

>> MORE THAN 72% OF CHILDREN INTHE AFRICAN-AMERICAN COMMUNITY

ARE BORN OUT OF WEDLOCK.

THAT MEANS ABSENT FATHERS.

>> OKAY.

72%.

THAT NUMBER, I COULD NOT BELIEVEIT. OF COURSE, I HARDLY BELIEVE

72% OF ALL THE THINGS DON LEMONSAYS, RIGHT.

THAT NUMBER SEEMS STAGGERING TOME.

CHARLES, WHAT IS YOUR IMPRESSIONOF THE NUMBER?

DOES THAT FEEL RIGHT TO YOU.

>> NO, THE NUMBER IS CORRECT.

WHAT WE DON'T GET WHEN WE HEARTHE NUMBER IS THE CONTEXT AROUND

THE NUMBER.

WHICH IS MARRIED BLACK WOMEN USETO HAVE MORE CHILDREN THEN EVEN

WHITE WOMEN.

THEIR RATE OF CHILD BIRTH HASDROPPED TREMENDOUSLY.

THAT LEAVES ONLY THE UNMARRIEDBLACK WOMEN HAVING MORE OF THE

CHILDREN, RIGHT.

THAT'S PART OF THE CONTEXT.

>> SO PART IS THE WAY THE CENSUSIS TAKEN.

>> NO, IT'S NOT THE CENSUS. IT'STHE CULTURAL SHIFT

IN THE WAY MARRIED BLACK WOMENARE HAVING CHILDREN.

SECOND, THE BIG BALLOONING INTHAT PART COINCIDES WITH THE

BALLOONING IN MASSINCARCERATIONS AND WAR ON DRUGS.

WE ARE SUCKING MASSIVE NUMBERSOF AFRICAN-AMERICAN MEN OUT

OF THE COMMUNITY THAT AREMARRIAGE AGE THAT WOULD OF BEEN

DOING SOMETHING PRODUCTIVE WITHTHEIR LIVES, AFRICAN-AMERICAN

MEN.>> I WANT TO GET INTO THE ROOT

>> CAUSES LATER BUT COMMON, HOWDID THAT NUMBER HIT YOU.

>> THE NUMBER IT DEFINITELY HITME HARD.

I DIDN'T EXPECT IT TO BE THATHIGH.

WHEN I HEAR 72% IT MAKES METHINK WELL, THAT'S THE NUMBER OF

UNWED, BUT I STILL HAVE TO,WHICH WE WILL GET INTO.

THAT DOESN'T MEAN THE FATHER ISABSENT.

>> EXACTLY.

>> RIGHT.

>> AND JOE, YOU'RE REALLY OUTTHERE ON THE FRONT LINE.

IS THAT ACCURATE TO YOU.

>> THE NUMBER FEELS ACCURATE.

ACROSS DEMOGRAPHIC GROUPS FAMILYTYPES ARE CHANGING.

THE CULTURE IS CHANGING.

PEOPLE MAKING DECISIONS ABOUTRELATIONSHIPS ARE DIFFERENT THEN

10, 15, 20 YEARS AGO.

I DON'T KNOW IF WE HAVEACCOUNTED FOR THE SHIFT.

>> IT'S DEFINITELY A CULTURALSHIFT.

MIKE, WE HAD YOU TALK TO PEOPLEIN THE COMMUNITY TO GET THEIR

REACTION TO THE NUMBER RIGHT.

>> YEAH. I GOTTA SAY WHEN IHEARD THE NUMBER

I WAS SHOCKED, I DIDN'T BELIEVEIT WHERE DID THE NUMBER

COME FROM, IS THAT A RANDOMNUMBER.

THEY SAY GOVERNMENT STATISTICS.

I'M LIKE, EH, YOU KNOW.

YOU KNOW -->> OKAY.

LET'S ROLL THAT.

LET'S SEE WHAT MIKE HAS TO SAYTO SOME OF THE PEOPLE

>> WHAT WOULD YOU SAY THEPERCENTAGE OF BLACK CHILDREN

BORN TO SINGLE MOTHERS INAMERICA.

>> 65%.

>> 65%.

>> 75%.

>> 75%.

>> I WOULD SAY 85%.

>> 85%!

>> 70%, MAYBE.

I THINK IT'S HIGH.

>> CHICAGO DEFINITELY FOR SURE.

79%.

>> WHY YOU SAY DEFINITELY FORSURE?

>> CHICAGO IS A ROUGH CITY.

I LIVED THERE FOR 7 YEARS.

HARLEM 69%.

BROOKLYN 64%.

>> YOU SOUND LIKE YOU DIDRESEARCH.

YOU HAVE SPECIFIC NUMBERS.

>> BECAUSE I KNOW A LOT OF BLACKPEOPLE.

>> 72% OF BLACK KIDS ARE BORN TOUNWED MOTHERS.

HOW DOES THAT NUMBER MAKE YOUFEEL WHEN YOU HEARD IT.

>> THAT'S NUTS BECAUSE I THOUGHTI WAS WRONG WHEN I SAID 65

I THOUGHT THAT WAS TOO HIGH. IWAS GIVING IT A BIT OF A BUFFER

72 IS RIDICULOUS

>> IT DOESN'T SEEM HIGH TO YOU?

>> IT ALWAYS IS HIGH IN THEBLACK COMMUNITY.

THAT'S NOTHING NEW.>> I'M NOT SURPRISED

>> I DON'T SEE A LOT OF COUPLESTOGETHER.

>> 72%.

>> WHERE IS THAT FROM.

>> BASICALLY THE 90s OR 80s.

>> NO THIS IS A 2010GOVERNMENT STATISTIC

>> I DON'T BELIEVE IT.

>> YOU THINK IT'S HIGHER ORLOWER?

>> ABOUT 71%.

>> 72% TO 71%.

>> 72-71.

>> ALRIGHT 71%.

72.

OKAY.

[LAUGHING]>> YOU KNOW THAT GOVERNMENT THEY

LIE.

[LAUGHING]>> THE BROTHER DOESN'T TRUST THE

GOVERNMENT FOR ONE PERCENTAGEPOINT.

>> THAT'S WHAT HAPPENS, YOUKNOW.

>> CHARLES I HAVE TO ASK YOUTHIS.

SOME OF THE GROWTH OF THE NUMBERTO ME IS A LITTLE MORE

STAGGERING THEN THE NUMBER.

I'M OF A LITTLE BIT OF AN OLDERGENERATION.

IN 1965 THE NUMBER OF BLACKBABIES BORN TO UNWED MOTHERS WAS

24%.

FROM THEN TO 72% IS ALARMING TOME.

IT THIS REALLY A CRISISCHARLES OR IS IT OVER BLOWN?

>> I AGREE WITH JOE.

IF YOU LOOK AT ALL GROUPSTHEY'RE ALL INCREASING, RIGHT.

THE BLACK NUMBER IS MUCH, MUCHHIGHER THAN OTHERS.

IT'S ABOUT TWO AND A HALF TIMESWHAT THE WHITE NUMBER IS.

BUT I THINK WE HAVE TO FIGUREOUT WHAT CRISIS MEANS. WE HAVE

AN OLD MODEL WHICH SAYS THE ONLY WAY TO BE A PARENT IS TO

RESIDE AND PROVIDE.

WE ARE NOW MOVING INTO A CULTUREWHERE PEOPLE BELIEVE YOU CAN

PROVIDE WITHOUT RESIDING.

>> OKAY.

>> YOU CAN DEBATE THAT BACK ANDFORTH.

IT'S A DIFFERENT WAY TO THINK.

>> THERE IS A STATISTIC.

IT'S THE ONE I DON'T HAVE HERE.

IT SHOWS PARTICIPATION OFBLACK FATHERS TO BE AMONG THE

HIGHEST.

>> IT'S HIGHER THAN ANY OTHERRACIAL GROUP.

>> A LOT OF THIS IS HOW IT'SSHAPED IN THE MEDIA OR THAT SORT

OF THING.

IT'S FUNNY WHEN I LOOK AT THEWAY IT'S TALKED ABOUT IN THE

MEDIA.

I REMEMBER PRESIDENT OBAMA SAIDPART OF THE PROBLEM OF YOUNG

YOUNG MEN OF COLOR IS OFTENTIMESTHE ONLY

THING THEY'RE PASSIONATE ABOUTIS BASKETBALL OR RAP.

COMMON, YOU'RE A RAPPER AND YOURDAD PLAYED BASKETBALL.

>> I FALL IN THAT CATEGORY.

>> WHY DOES OBAMA HATE YOU.

>> I DON'T KNOW, MAN.

>> ARE YOU THE PROBLEM!

>> I WILL GET HIS ANSWER WHEN WECOME BACK.

WE WILL BE RIGHT BACK.

>> OKAY.

THANK YOU, VERY MUCH.

THANK YOU.

WE'RE BACK WITH OUR PANELTALKING ABOUT BLACK FATHERHOOD.

BEFORE WE LEFT.

I'M HERE WITH COMMON, JOE JONES,CHARLES BLOW AND MIKE YARD.

NOW BEFORE WE LEFT OBAMA WASTHROWING SHADE ON MY BOY COMMON.

NO, I WANT TO BRING UP THOUGH, ALOT OF TIMES WHEN THERE IS

CRITICISM ABOUT THIS ISSUE.

BILL COSBY SAID PULL YOUR PANTSUP.

HE'S A DIFFERENT STORY.

PEOPLE BRISTLED AT HIM AND FELTHE WAS PREACHING TO THEM.

EVEN WHEN OBAMA MADE HIS SPEECHIN 2008, JESSE JACKSON WAS NOT

HAPPY.

HE WAS CAUGHT OFF MIC TALKINGABOUT IT LET'S ROLL THAT FIRST.

(WHISPERING)

>> HE WANTED TO CUT HIS NUTSOFF.

THIS IS -- THIS IS THE REVERENDJESSE JACKSON.

COMMON, THIS IS NOT AN EASYSUBJECT TO TALK ABOUT.

EVEN AMONG OURSELVES.

IT'S NOT EASY, RIGHT.

DO YOU THINK THERE IS A

DEFENSIVENESS ABOUT IT?>> OF COURSE IN OUR COMMUNITY

WHEN YOU TALK ABOUT FAMILYBUSINESS OUT IN THE OPEN

SOME PEOPLE THINK WHYYOU TALKING ABOUT IT WE NEED TO

TALK ABOUT IT.

IT NEEDS TO BE DISCUSSED.

IF SOME FEELINGS GET HURT WITHTHE TRUTH THE TRUTH IS PART OF

THE HEALING PROCESS.

I DON'T MIND WHEN CERTAIN ELDERSFEEL THE WAY THEY FEEL AND SAY

WHAT THEY SAY ABOUT

AS FATHERS WE NEED TO STEP UP.

I DON'T LIKE THE GENERALIZATIONEITHER.

BOTH WAYS, THAT'S HOW I FEELABOUT IT.

>> I THINK COMMON HAS A STRONGPOINT.

PART OF THE PROBLEM WITH WHATOBAMA WAS SAYING, ALTHOUGH HIS

INTENTIONS WERE GOOD.

PART OF THE PATHOLOGIZING OFBLACK MEN.

IT'S A LONG HISTORY OF US SAYINGABOUT BLACK PEOPLE IN GENERAL

AND BLACK MEN PARTICULARLY THATYOU DO NOT CARE.

THAT YOU'RE IMMORAL, UNETHICAL,AND MAKING BABIES --

>> THAT HAS BEEN FOR SOLONG.

IT'S PERVASIVE UNDERNEATH.

>> EVEN WE HAVE BOUGHT IT WE'REALL TASTING THE SAME FOODS.

>> JOE, YOU'RE DOING A LOT OFGREAT WORK OUT THERE IN

BALTIMORE?

>> YES.

>> I WANT TO TALK ABOUT PERSONALSTORIES A BIT.

TELL ME ABOUT YOUR STORY GROWINGUP.

>> I GREW UP IN BALTIMORE CITY.

MY MOTHER AND FATHERDIVORCED WHEN I WAS 9.

I WAS AN ONLY CHILD.

LIVING WITH A BLACK WOMAN AS ASINGLE-MOTHER RAISING A BLACK

BOY, I WAS EXPOSED TO A LOT IHAD BEEN BUFFERED FROM

WHEN MY MOM AND DAD WERETOGETHER, SO AT 13

I PICKED UP A HYPODERMIC NEEDLEAND PUT IT IN MY ARM.

FOR 17 YEARS I WAS ADDICTED TOHEROINE AND COCAINE

>> YOU WERE LOOKING FOR A FATHERFIGURE?

>> I DON'T KNOW IF I WAS LOOKINGFOR A FATHER FIGURE BUT I WAS

DEFINITELY HURT AND CONFUSEDBECAUSE I DIDN'T UNDERSTAND

THE IMMEDIATE SHIFT FROM LIVINGWITH TWO PARENTS TO A SINGLE

MOM WHO WAS WORKING AND TRYINGTO PROVIDE AND MY FATHER WAS

MORE DISTANT -- BUT I AGREE THATWE SHOULDN'T PATHOLOGIZE--

>> DO YOU FEEL THE PAIN MAKESYOU A BETTER FATHER NOW.

>> I KNOW THE JOURNEY HAS MADEME A BETTER FATHER.

PARTICULARLY WHEN I HAD MY FIRSTSON, WHEN I WAS ADDICTED TO

DRUGS.

I HAVE HEALED THE RELATIONSHIP,WE'RE STILL WORKING ON IT.

TO MY YOUNGEST SON GRADUATING INMAY FROM THE GREAT MORGAN STATE

UNIVERSITY AND IS AN ENGINEER

>> COMMON, YOU HAD A SPECIALRELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR DAD?

I KNOW HE PASSED AWAY RECENTLY

>> YES. I DIDN'T GROW UP WITH MYDAD.

MY DAD WAS TRULY MY FATHERTHROUGHOUT HIS LIFE.

HE TAUGHT ME EVERYTHING.

LIKE FROM SPIRITUALITY TO SEXWITH GIRLS.

YOU KNOW.

LIKE -- HE REALLY DID THINGS INEEDED FROM A FATHER EVEN THOUGH

HE WASN'T IN THE HOME.

THAT'S WHY, YOU KNOW, AS WE SAIDTHE CULTURE IS CHANGING.

WE HAVE TO UNDERSTAND THAT SOMEMARRIAGES MAY NOT WORK OUT.

THAT DOESN'T MEAN THE FATHER ISNOT PRESENT.

>> HE WASN'T THERE BUT HE WASPRESENT.

>> YES.

HE'S STILL WITH ME.

ALL OF THE THINGS HE IMPLANTEDIN ME I LIVE WITH NOW.

I LOVE HIM FOR THAT.

HE GAVE ME THE TRUTH.

HE WAS NEVER FALSE LIKE HE TOLDME HIS FLAWS.

HE WAS ADDICTED TO DRUGS FOR ASECOND.

HE GOT BETTER.

THAT TAUGHT ME SOMETHING ABOUTHONESTY AND ABOUT BEING TRUE TO

MYSELF AND NOT BEING AFRAID.

WE NEED THAT AS BLACK MEN.

AS BLACK PEOPLE.

AS PEOPLE.

I APPRECIATE THAT FROM MYFATHER.

>> MIKE, YOU GREW UP PARTLY INNEW YORK.

>> YES.

WELL, I WAS BORN IN THE VIRGINISLANDS, ST. CROIX

(APPLAUSE)>> ST. CROIX?

>> HOW WEIRD IS THAT.

>> STAND UP.

THERE IS MY RIDE HOME.

>> YEAH, I WAS BORN IN ST.CROIX.

MY FATHER WAS ALWAYS PART OF MYLIFE.

WE MOVED TO NEW YORK.

WE HIT A ROUGH PATCH.

SAME STORY, HE GOT INVOLVEDWITH THE DRUGS AND ALL THAT.

BUT ALSO PULLED HIMSELF OUT.

HE'S A GREAT EXAMPLE TO ME WHENYOU FALL YOU CAN GET BACK UP.

WATCHING HIM GO THROUGH IT.

WE WENT THROUGH IT WITH HIM.

HE WAS ALWAYS THERE WITH US.

HE WAS ALWAYS MY HERO NO MATTERWHAT.

I THINK THAT'S IMPORTANT.

>> CHARLES.

>> THIS IS A COMMON STORY.

MY DAD -->> COMMON STORY.

>> NOT COMMON'S STORY BUT -->> COMMON'S LAST NAME IS

ACTUALLY DENOMINATOR.

[LAUGHING]>> ALRIGHT.

I'M JUST TELLING, THEY DON'TKNOW.

THEY DON'T KNOW.

GO AHEAD, CHARLES.

>> NO, I HAVE FOUR OLDERBROTHERS.

MY MOM AND DAD BROKE UP WHEN IWAS ABOUT 5 YEARS OLD.

HE HAD ISSUES WITH ALCOHOL ANDGAMBLING.

ONE THING I REMEMBER IS HE KEPTTRYING.

I DIDN'T APPRECIATE THAT AS AKID.

IT WAS JUST, HE WASN'T THERE.

BUT YOU COULD WALK AWAY.

YOU KNOW HE JUST KEPT TRYINGEVEN THROUGH THE ALCOHOLISM.

NOW I SEE HIM WITH MY KIDS.

HE'S THE BEST GRANDFATHER, YOUCOULD IMAGINE.

I LOOK AT THAT AND SAY PEOPLECAN CHANGE.

YOU KNOW, HE'S NOT A BROKENPERSON.

HE WAS BROKEN IN THEMOMENT.

HE'S A HUMAN BEING.

HE CAN REBOUND FROM THAT.

THAT IS AMAZING.

I SEE ME AND MY FOUR BROTHERS.

THEY'RE AMAZING FATHERS.

I SAY, THIS IS A CYCLE THAT CANBE BROKEN.

>> YOU KNOW --[ APPLAUSE ]

>> YES.

I THINK, I THINK SOMETIMES OURCULTURE GETS TOO CAUGHT UP IN

NUMBERS AND STATISTICS.

WE DON'T HEAR ENOUGH STORIES.

YOU KNOW, ANECDOTES AND FLESHAND BLOOD IN THINGS.

I THINK WE NEED TO HEAR THIS TOCLEAR UP A LOT OF THE

MISCONCEPTIONS.

CHILDREN ARE RESILIENT.

CULTURES ARE RESILIENT.

YOU KNOW.

WE LEARN FROM OUR PARENTS INMANY DIFFERENT WAYS.

WE WILL LEARN MORE ABOUTEVERYONE WITH A SPECIAL EDITION

OF "KEEP IT A HUNDRED."

WE WILL BE RIGHT BACK.

[CHEERS AND APPLAUSE]>> OKAY.

IT'S TIME TO GET REAL ON APERSONAL LEVEL.

"LET'S KEEP IT 100".

I LIKE THAT. NORMALLY IN THISSEGMENT

I ASK EACH PERSON A QUESTIONAND ASK THEM

TO KEEP IT 100 BECAUSE THIS ISTHE BLACK DAD SUMMIT WE'RE

GONNA HAVE OUR VERY FIRST SPEEDROUND, SO YOU ALL GET TO

ANSWER THE SAME QUESTION.

WE WILL HAVE A COUPLE OF THESE.

YOU HAVE TO KEEP IT A100 PERCENT REAL. IF YOU DON'T,

THE AUDIENCE WILL--[BOOING]

IF THEY LIKE IT THEY WILL CLAP.

[ APPLAUSE ]>> LET'S START, LET'S START WITH

YOU, COMMON.

[LAUGHING]>> CHARLES WANTS TO GO LAST.

IN THE SUPER BOWL, RICHARDSHERMAN, HE HAS A GIRLFRIEND.

SHE WAS GONNA HAVE A BABYRIGHT.

THERE WAS A CHANT THAT SHE MIGHTOF GONE INTO LABOR.

SAY YOU HAVE A CHANCE TO PLAY INTHE SUPER BOWL OR BE THERE FOR

THE BIRTH OF YOUR BABY.

OKAY.

ONE OR THE OTHER.

WHICH ONE DO YOU DO?

>> IS IT MY FIRST CHILD?

[LAUGHING]>> YES.

YES.

>> ALRIGHT.

[LAUGHING]>> SUPER BOWL.

>> SUPER BOWL.

[LAUGHING]>> I THINK YOU GOT A 100 THERE.

I LIKE THAT.

JOE, SUPER BOWL.

>> MY FIRST CHILD I'M THERE,MAN.

>> YOU GOING TO BE THERE FOR THEBABY.

>> THE BABY.

>> WHAT IF YOU'RE THEQUARTERBACK.

>> THE SUB HAS TO COME IN MAN.

FAMILY FIRST.

[ APPLAUSE ]>> I BELIEVE HIM.

MIKE.

>> I'M WITH JOE ON THAT ONE.

I'M GOING -->> DON'T TRY TO LIE TO ME.

YOU'RE GOING TO THE SUPER BOWL.

>> I'M GOING TO WATCH MY KID BEBORN.

>> ALRIGHT.

>> CHARLES?

SUPER BOWL OR SEE THE BIRTH OFYOUR BABY.

>> BIRTH OF THE BABY.

>> HAPPY WIFE, HAPPY LIFE.

[LAUGHING]>> ALRIGHT.

>> HAPPY WIFE, HAPPY LIFE.

[LAUGHING]>> YOU WANT TO KNOW -- I'M NOT

GOING TO SAY.

>> I WANT TO KNOW.

>> I THINK I MIGHT GO TO THESUPER BOWL.

[LAUGHING][CHEERS AND APPLAUSE]

>> HEY, I CAN HAVE MORE KIDS.

I MAY NEVER GET ANOTHER CHANCETO GO TO THE SUPER BOWL.

SEND ME YOUR TWEETS.

[BEEP][BEEP]

>> ALRIGHT.

WE BROUGHT UP THE QUESTION OFMARRIAGE.

HOW A LOT OF PEOPLE JUST ARE NOTMARRYING ANYMORE.

NOW, JOE, I WILL START WITH YOUON THIS ONE.

IS IT BECAUSE BLACK WOMEN ARETOO BOSSY?

ARE BLACK WOMEN TOO BOSSY.

>> I HAVE TO THE GO TO THEBATHROOM.

I WILL BE RIGHT BACK.

>> KEEP IT ONE HUNDRED.

>> BLACK WOMEN HAVE OPINIONSABOUT EVERYTHING.

[LAUGHING]>> YOU DIDN'T ANSWER THAT

QUESTION.

OKAY.

MIKE.

YOU FROM THE ISLANDS.

>> I LOVE BLACK WOMEN.

>> ARE BLACK WOMEN --[CHEERS AND APPLAUSE]

>> ARE THEY TOO BOSSY?

>> I'M NOT GETTING INVOLVED INTHAT.

I'M NOT GETTING INVOLVED INTHAT.

>> OKAY.

CHARLES, CHARLES, ON A SCALE OF1-10 HOW BOSSY ARE BLACK WOMEN.

GIVE ME A NUMBER.

GIVE ME A NUMBER?

YOU CAN'T GET OUT OF THIS.

NO, NO, NO.

SCALE 1-10.

WE'RE CHANGING IT UP NOW.

SCALE 1-0.

[LAUGHING]KEEP IT 100.

GIVE ME A NUMBER.

>> IT BETTER NOT BE UNDER FIVE.

>> WHAT -- WHAT?

[LAUGHING]>> SCALE 1-10.

>> I'M NOT DOING THAT.

>> LAST ONE.

COMMON IS FEARLESS, RIGHT.

COMMON, WHICH BLACK WOMEN ARETHE BOSSIEST.

PROFESSIONAL BLACK ATHLETEWOMEN.

PROFESSIONAL SINGING BLACKWOMEN.

OR PROFESSIONAL ACTRESS BLACKWOMEN.

AND WE KNOW WHO YOU'RE TALKING ABOUT.

KEEP IT A HUNDRED PERCENT.

WHICH ONE, WHICH ONE?

>> WE'RE GOING WITH PROFESSIONALSINGING BLACK WOMEN.

>> THAT'S KEEPING IT A HUNDRED.

HE WILL NEED ALL OF YOU.

WE WILL BE RIGHT BACK.

>> OKAY.

THAT'S ALL THE TIME WE HAVE FORTONIGHT.

I WANT TO THANK OUR PANELISTS.

THANK YOU, COMMON, JOE JONES,MIKE YARD AND CHARLES BLOW

THANK YOU FOR HELPING ME KEEPIT A HUNDRED ON TWITTER.

EACH OF OUR PANELISTS HAD TOANSWER A QUESTION AND I HOLD

MYSELF TO THE SAME STANDARD.REMEMBER, I DON'T HAVE A

CHANCE TO SEE THE QUESTIONUNTIL RIGHT NOW. OKAY. SO

TONIGHT'S QUESTION COMESFROM @SYDBLUEM.

OK GIVE ME THE QUESTION.

>> IF YOU KNEW A FRIEND OFYOURS WAS GOING TO WALK OUT ON

HIS FAMILY, WOULD YOU INTERFERE.

>> YES.

I WOULD.

IF IT WAS A CLOSE FRIEND I WOULDINTERFERE.

IF I KNEW HE WAS DOING THE WRONGTHING, SURE I WOULD INTERFERE.

I HAVE NO PROBLEM WITH THAT.

[ APPLAUSE ]>> THAT'S KEEPING IT REAL.

THAT'S WHAT FRIENDS ARE FOR.

YOU HAVE TO BE THERE FOR YOURBOY.

THAT'S WHAT FRIENDS ARE FOR,RIGHT.

TOMORROW'S SHOW IS ABOUTDESIGNER BABIES.

LET ME EXPLAIN THIS.

SHOULD WE BE ABLE TO PICK ANDCHOOSE THE GENETIC TRAITS OF OUR

KIDS.

KEEP IT A HUNDRED.

I DON'T KNOW WHAT OUR PANELISTSTHINK BUT I LOVE BLACK WOMEN.

GOOD NIGHT, EVERYONE.[CHEERS AND APPLAUSE]